Rekindling the Flame: A Letter to a Withdrawn Spouse

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For marriages that haven't "exploded" but have grown cold, silent, and roommate-like.

My Dearest [Name], Lately, I’ve felt like we are two ships passing in the night. We talk about the schedule, the kids, and the chores, but I feel like we’ve stopped talking about us. I miss you. Not just the person I live with, but the person who used to make me laugh until my sides hurt. I realize I’ve contributed to this "drift" by becoming complacent and forgetting to date my own spouse. I’ve let the routine of life dull the spark that brought us together. I want to change that. I’m committed to putting our relationship back at the center of my life. I want to listen to your dreams again, hear your day, and build a partnership that feels exciting, not just functional. Let’s start small. No pressure, just a night for us to be "us" again. Forever yours, [Your Name]

Writing Tips

  • Address the "Roommate Syndrome.
  • Focus on "Dating your spouse.
  • Keep the tone romantic but grounded.